Toys & Sensation
Vibrators, restraints, sensation tools and props that add something neither of you can do with hands alone.
Toys are additions, not replacements. A vibrator does not compete with a partner any more than a massage candle competes with hands; it simply produces a kind of sensation the human body cannot. The couples who get the most out of toys treat them as shared equipment: something you pick out, charge, and use on each other, not a private gadget one person hides in a drawer. Used that way, a toy becomes one more way to pay attention to your partner.
Pick the first one together, ideally browsing online side by side, since the choosing is half the fun and removes the guesswork. Stick to a few plain rules: buy body-safe materials such as platinum silicone, ABS plastic, glass, or steel; avoid anything porous or strongly scented; use water-based lube with silicone toys; and wash everything with mild soap and warm water before and after. Start simple and cheap, see what you both actually reach for, then upgrade.
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Vibrator during sex together
Adding a vibrator while you have penetrative or manual sex, usually held against the clitoris by either partner. It supplies steady stimulation that hands and friction rarely match, making orgasm during sex far more reliable for many women. A small, quiet toy fits between bodies easily; water-based lube keeps silicone safe.
How to start: Pick a small bullet or lay-on vibe together, charge it before the mood strikes, and let the receiving partner hold it first so they control the pressure.
Partner using a vibrator on you
Handing your partner the toy and letting them run it over you while they watch your reactions. The giver controls speed, angle, and teasing pauses, which turns a solo device into genuinely shared play. For the receiver, the surrender of control is often as arousing as the vibration itself.
How to start: Start clothed or over underwear so the intensity builds slowly, and agree the receiver can guide the giver's hand anytime without it counting as criticism.
Using a vibrator on your partner
Taking the controls yourself: tracing the toy over thighs and torso, settling it where they want it, easing off just before too much. Giving this way is a skill of observation, reading breath and hips rather than following a routine. Lower settings and indirect contact are usually the right opening move.
How to start: Ask them to show you their favorite spot and speed first, then copy it before you improvise. Begin on the lowest setting and climb slowly.
Massage candle drip
Massage candles are made from soy or shea-based wax that melts at skin-safe temperatures into warm massage oil, unlike ordinary candles, which burn. You drip or pour the warm oil over your partner's back or chest, then work it in with your hands. The result is heat, scent, and a long slippery massage in one prop.
How to start: Buy a candle labeled specifically for massage, never a regular one. Test a drop on your own inner wrist first, then pour from a height of a foot or so.
Feather teasing
Trailing a feather or feather tickler over bare skin: neck, inner arms, the backs of knees, everywhere except where they most want it. The touch is almost too light to process, which makes nerve endings strain to follow it. It costs a few dollars, needs no batteries, and pairs beautifully with a blindfold.
How to start: Order a simple feather tickler, ask your partner to lie still with eyes closed, and spend ten unhurried minutes mapping which spots make them shiver.
New lingerie reveal
Choosing lingerie specifically for your partner and unveiling it slowly: a robe dropped, a zipper lowered, a pause in the doorway. The toy here is anticipation. For the wearer it is a chance to feel deliberately desirable; for the watcher, the knowledge it was picked with them in mind does most of the work.
How to start: Shop together online or let the wearer choose alone for surprise. Plan the reveal as its own scene with low light and no rush to undress further.
Blindfolded to their touch
Wearing a blindfold while your partner explores you with hands, mouth, or props. Removing sight sharpens every other sense, so a fingertip reads as a jolt and you never know where the next touch lands. A soft sleep mask works fine; the receiver should be able to pull it off themselves at any moment.
How to start: Start with a sleep mask you already own and a simple deal: ten minutes of touch, no talking, and either of you can end it with one word.
Blindfolded toy selection
A playful escalation of blindfold play: you lie blindfolded while your partner picks the next toy from the box, and you only learn what it is when it touches you. The guessing game builds suspense between each sensation. Keep the lineup to toys you have both already used and enjoyed, so every surprise is a welcome one.
How to start: Lay out three familiar items, blindfold the receiver, and use each for a minute or two while they guess. Save anything new for a sighted session first.
Wand massager
The wand is the heavyweight of vibrators: a large head on a handle, originally sold as a back massager, delivering deep rumbling vibration rather than a surface buzz. Its broad head suits people who find pinpoint toys too intense, and the long handle makes it easy for a partner to hold during sex or massage.
How to start: Try it over underwear or a folded towel first, since full power on bare skin can be a lot. Cordless rechargeable models are the practical pick.
Couples vibrator
A C-shaped toy worn during penetrative sex: one slim arm sits inside against the front wall, the other rests on the clitoris, and both partners feel the vibration. It targets the most common gap in intercourse, steady clitoral stimulation, without anyone needing a free hand. Plenty of lube helps it stay put.
How to start: Read a few reviews together and pick a slim, flexible model. Try it during slower positions first, since vigorous angles can shift it out of place.
Warming and cooling gels
Specialty gels and arousal balms that create a gentle heating or tingling-cool sensation on contact, often intensifying with breath or friction. They add a temperature dimension to oral sex, massage, or manual play with zero equipment. Skin sensitivity varies a lot, so a patch test matters more here than with any other item on this list.
How to start: Buy one warming and one cooling product from a reputable intimate brand, test each on an inner wrist, then start with a single small drop.
Naughty dice
A pair of dice where one die names an action, kiss, lick, stroke, and the other a body part or location. Rolling outsources the decision, which is exactly the point: nobody has to ask for what they want, the dice did it. It is one of the lowest-stakes ways for a shy couple to vary their script.
How to start: Keep the dice on the nightstand and agree on a standing rule: whoever rolls, the other performs it. Three rolls each is a complete game.
Bedroom card deck
A deck of cards printed with dares, positions, or intimate questions that you draw in turns. Like dice, cards remove the burden of suggesting things yourself, but a good deck escalates deliberately from sweet to steamy, so you can stop at whatever depth suits the night. Decks aimed at couples beat novelty party versions.
How to start: Choose a deck with marked intensity levels, shuffle only the mild section the first night, and let either player swap a card once per game, no questions asked.
Costume and dress-up play
Wearing an outfit, a uniform, a costume, or just dramatically different clothes, to step into a fantasy together. Clothing is the fastest shortcut into character: it changes posture, voice, and permission levels before a word is spoken. The costume does not need to be elaborate; one signature piece is usually enough to flip the switch.
How to start: Each name one fantasy outfit you would enjoy seeing or wearing, buy the cheap version first, and agree on character names before the scene starts.
Soft cuffs, being restrained
Being fastened to the bed with padded or fabric cuffs, far kinder to wrists than novelty metal handcuffs. Restraint removes the option of reaching back, directing, or reciprocating, which for many people quiets a busy mind and deepens sensation. Quick-release velcro or clip designs mean either of you can undo them in seconds.
How to start: Start with velcro cuffs and wrists only, ankles can come later. Agree on a stop word, check fingers stay warm, and never leave a restrained partner alone.
Restraining your partner
Taking the keys, so to speak: cuffing your partner's wrists and setting the pace yourself. The giver's job is two things at once, generous teasing and quiet safety monitoring, checking that cuffs stay loose enough for a finger and hands keep their color. Done attentively, it is as absorbing as receiving.
How to start: Plan roughly what you will do for the first ten minutes so you are not improvising nervously. Ask 'how is that' early and often; it reads as confidence, not doubt.
App-controlled wearable toy
A wearable vibrator paired to a phone app, letting your partner change patterns and intensity from their screen, in the next room or another city. It is a staple of long-distance couples and a playful power exchange for cohabiting ones. Bluetooth range and connection drops are the realistic quirks; charge it fully beforehand.
How to start: Test the app together in the same room first to learn the controls and lag. Set a time window and a clear text signal for 'pause' before playing apart.
Remote toy across the room
Wearing a vibrating toy while your partner holds the remote from the sofa, the kitchen, the other end of the dinner table at home. The distance is the tease: they look entirely casual while deciding exactly what you feel. It turns an ordinary evening in into a slow game of composure and surrender.
How to start: Try it during a movie night at home. Agree the wearer can remove the toy at any point, and that a hand raised means settle it down.
Discreet remote toy on a night out
Taking the remote game out the front door: a quiet wearable under clothes at dinner or a bar while your partner holds the controls. The thrill is the secret, not the audience, so the etiquette is strict, genuinely silent toys, subtle settings, and nothing that visibly involves strangers in your private game.
How to start: Test the toy's noise level at home under clothing first. Pick a loud venue, keep settings low, and decide in advance that either of you can call it off mid-evening.
Vibrating ring
A stretchy ring worn around the base of the penis with a small vibrator on top, positioned so it presses the clitoris during sex. The wearer gets a gentle constriction and buzz; the partner gets hands-free clitoral stimulation in exactly the positions where it is hardest to reach. Cheap, simple, and a classic first couple's toy.
How to start: Buy a soft silicone rechargeable model, add water-based lube before rolling it on, and start with positions where bodies stay pressed close together.
Plug during foreplay
Slowly working a small butt plug in as part of warm-up, adding fullness and pressure that many people, of any anatomy, find intensifies everything else. The non-negotiables: a flared base so it cannot travel, plenty of thick lube since the body makes none there, and a beginner size that looks almost comically small.
How to start: Buy a small silicone plug with a wide flared base and dedicated lube. Go slowly with lots of breathing, and stop at any sharp sensation; pressure yes, pain no.
Wearing a plug through the evening
Keeping a comfortable plug in during a date night or quiet evening at home, a private secret that keeps arousal simmering for hours. Comfort is everything for extended wear: a slim neck, a base shaped to sit between cheeks, and soft silicone. Most guides suggest keeping sessions modest at first and re-applying lube as needed.
How to start: Master short sessions at home before any outing. Choose a plug marketed for wear, take it out the moment it stops being comfortable, and wash it well after.
Strap-on play
Bringing a harness and dildo, or a strapless double-ended toy, into the bedroom so the partner without a penis can penetrate, or a couple can swap roles entirely. Beyond the physical novelty, many couples find the role reversal itself the revelation. Fit matters: a snug harness and a modest, body-safe silicone toy make the first time smooth.
How to start: Shop together for a beginner harness kit with a smaller toy. Let the receiving partner control depth and pace completely the first time, lots of lube, zero hurry.
Air-pulse suction toy
A newer class of toy that surrounds the clitoris and uses pulses of air pressure rather than vibration, often described as closer to oral sensation. Many users find it dramatically faster and more intense than classic vibes, which makes the lower settings the smart starting point. It works best held still in one spot, not moved around.
How to start: Read reviews together and pick a well-rated model, then let the receiver try it solo once to learn the settings before handing their partner the controls.
Partner-controlled edging
Giving your partner the toy's controls and the authority over when, or whether, you finish. They build you close to climax, back off, and repeat, which typically makes the eventual orgasm far stronger. It is a structured surrender: the receiver's only job is honest reporting, the words 'close' and 'stop' doing most of the work.
How to start: Agree on the vocabulary first: 'close', 'back off', and a real stop word. Start with two or three edges before release, not a marathon.
Restrained feather teasing
The combination piece: cuffed to the bed, possibly blindfolded, while a feather wanders everywhere except where you want it. Restraint removes the escape, lightness removes the relief, and the nervous system does the rest. Because the receiver cannot adjust anything, the giver should check in more often than feels necessary.
How to start: Run feather play and soft cuffs separately on earlier nights, then combine them. Set a time limit, fifteen minutes is plenty, with mercy negotiable.
Two toys at once
Layering stimulation: a wand on the clitoris while an internal toy works, or a plug paired with a stroker. Multiple simultaneous inputs can produce blended orgasms that single-point stimulation rarely reaches, but coordination is a genuine skill, so the giver should add the second toy only once the first has a steady rhythm.
How to start: Use two toys your partner already loves individually. Establish the first one fully, then introduce the second on its lowest setting and let them direct the mix.
Building a toy box together
Shopping for a shared collection as a couple project: browsing a store or site together, vetoing freely, and assembling a box that belongs to both of you. The conversation is the real product, since wishlisting toys is a painless way to confess curiosities. Storage matters too: a clean, lined box keeps body-safe toys actually safe.
How to start: Set a budget, open a reputable shop's site on one screen, and each pick one item plus one wildcard. Add a toy cleaner and decent lube to the cart.
Bullet vibe on the clitoris
The bullet is the minimalist vibrator: finger-sized, pinpoint, and easy to slip between bodies in any position. Pressed exactly where your partner wants it, or teasingly nearby, it delivers focused stimulation without bulk or noise. Because the tip is so precise, tiny adjustments in angle and pressure change everything; let them steer your hand.
How to start: Buy a rechargeable silicone bullet, the ten-dollar batteries-included kind buzzes weakly. Ask your partner to place your hand exactly where and how they like it.
G-spot toy
A firm, curved toy, glass, steel, or rigid silicone, shaped to press the front vaginal wall a few inches in, where the G-spot area responds to pressure more than friction. The technique is a slow rocking 'come here' motion rather than thrusting. Firmness is the feature: this is one place rigid materials genuinely outperform soft ones.
How to start: Choose a moderately curved toy, use generous lube, and explore with slow pressure rather than speed. Aim for warm fullness; intensity builds over minutes, not seconds.
Wearable panty vibe
A small contoured vibrator that tucks into underwear, sometimes held by a magnetic clip, and hums against the clitoris while you go about your evening. Worn at home it is a slow-burn warm-up; paired with a remote it becomes a game. Fit and quietness decide everything, so snugger underwear genuinely improves the experience.
How to start: Charge it fully and test placement at home, walking around to check it stays put. Snug underwear holds it better; start on the lowest setting.
Thrusting toy
A motorized toy whose shaft moves in and out on its own, providing rhythmic penetration without anyone's arm tiring. Used by a partner, it frees their hands and mouth for everywhere else at the same time, which is the real magic of the category. These motors are stronger than vibes, so begin on the gentlest stroke setting.
How to start: Pick a body-safe silicone model with adjustable speed, use plenty of water-based lube, and let the receiver set depth and pace before you add kissing and hands.
Rabbit vibrator
The classic dual-stimulation toy: an internal shaft for the G-spot area plus an external arm that vibrates against the clitoris simultaneously. When the fit matches the body, the blended sensation is famous for a reason; when it does not, the external arm misses, so flexible-arm designs are the safer first buy. Water-based lube only with silicone.
How to start: Read fit-focused reviews together, since anatomy varies more than marketing admits. Have the receiver find their angle solo first, then make it a shared toy.
Prostate massager
A curved toy designed to reach the prostate through the rectum, an area many men describe as a different register of orgasm entirely. The essentials are the same as all anal play: flared base, thick lube, glacial pace, and a relaxed receiver. Vibrating models help beginners, since stillness plus vibration beats movement at first.
How to start: Choose a slim beginner model with a flared base, schedule unhurried time, and treat session one as exploration with no orgasm goal at all.
Remote vibrating plug
A butt plug with a built-in motor and a remote your partner controls, combining quiet fullness with surprise bursts of vibration they decide on. The power exchange is the draw: the wearer never knows when. All the standard plug rules apply, flared base, generous lube, modest size, plus a full charge before play.
How to start: Get comfortable with a plain plug of the same size first. Then hand over the remote at home with a rule: low settings until the wearer asks for more.
Chastity cage play
Locking the penis in a small cage that prevents erection and touch, with the keyholding partner deciding when it comes off. The eroticism is almost entirely psychological: denial, anticipation, and a very concrete symbol of handed-over control. Modern cages are lightweight resin or silicone; correct ring sizing and short first sessions keep it comfortable.
How to start: Start with an inexpensive, well-reviewed resin cage and wear it for an hour or two at home. Remove it at any numbness, swelling, or cold sensation, immediately.
Nipple clamps
Adjustable clamps that pinch the nipples, trading a controlled bite of intensity for dramatically heightened sensitivity. Adjustable screw or clover styles let you start feather-light. Counterintuitively, removal is the peak moment, as blood rushes back, so the giver should warn before unclipping. Sessions are best kept to ten or fifteen minutes per spot.
How to start: Buy adjustable tweezer-style clamps, test one on your partner's finger webbing first, and apply at the loosest setting. Warn them before removal; that is the big moment.
Nipple suckers
Small suction cups or cylinders that draw gentle vacuum pressure onto the nipples, increasing blood flow and sensitivity without the pinch of clamps. They are the softer cousin in nipple play: a steady pulling sensation that leaves the rest of the body free for hands and mouth. Sensitivity lingers pleasantly after removal.
How to start: Choose simple silicone suckers, squeeze and place them on already-aroused nipples, and keep first sessions to a few minutes while the rest of you is being teased.
Spreader bar
A rigid bar with cuffs at each end that holds ankles, or wrists, a fixed distance apart, keeping the restrained partner open and unable to close their legs. Compared with rope, it is fast, adjustable, and hard to get wrong. The exposure is the point: vulnerability plus total access, with the giver responsible for comfort checks.
How to start: Pick an adjustable bar with padded cuffs and start at the narrowest width, ankles only. Keep sessions short at first and check that feet stay warm.
Under-bed restraint set
A strap system that slides beneath the mattress with cuffs emerging at each corner, turning any ordinary bed into a four-point restraint setup that hides away by daylight. Spread-eagle is the most exposed and most committed tie, so it deserves extra attention: looser cuffs, regular circulation checks, and the giver never leaving the room.
How to start: Install it together and test each cuff for quick release before play. Begin with wrists only, add ankles another night, and agree on a stop word out loud.
Gag play
Wearing a soft gag, silicone ball, bit style, or simply fabric, that takes away easy speech and adds a layer of helplessness to restraint play. Because words are off the table, a hand signal or an object dropped from the hand becomes the stop word, and that must be rehearsed, not assumed. Breathable designs suit beginners.
How to start: Start with a breathable silicone gag or a soft scarf between the teeth, agree on a clear hand signal for stop, and keep first wears to a few minutes.
Collar and leash
Clipping a collar, padded, fabric, or leather, around your partner's neck with a leash to guide them, a strong symbol of giving over control for the night. Almost all the effect is psychological, so the physical rule is firm: guide from the leash gently, never yank, and fit the collar with two fingers of slack.
How to start: Buy a soft padded collar made for play, put it on as a deliberate ritual at the start of the evening, and take it off the same way at the end.
Paddle spanking
Graduating from a bare hand to a leather or wooden paddle, which spreads impact over a broad surface and produces a deep thud plus a satisfying sound. Safe targets are the fleshy lower buttocks and upper thighs, never the spine or kidneys. Warm up with light pats and rub between strikes; the contrast is half the pleasure.
How to start: Test the paddle on your own thigh first to learn its weight. Start at a third of the force you think they want and let them call the number up.
Flogger play
A flogger is a handle with many soft falls of suede, leather, or silicone, capable of everything from a trailing caress to a heavy thud across the back and buttocks. Beginners should use it mostly as a sensation tool: dragging the falls slowly over skin, then mixing in light swings. Soft, wide falls are the gentlest entry point.
How to start: Buy a soft suede or silicone flogger, practice slow figure-eight swings on a pillow, and open every session by simply trailing the falls over their skin.
Wartenberg pinwheel
A small stainless steel wheel of fine pins on a handle, originally a neurological exam tool, rolled slowly over skin to produce a bright, prickling sensation that hovers between tickle and sting. Light pressure is the entire technique; it should trace, never puncture. It is startlingly intense after a blindfold has primed the senses.
How to start: Roll it gently along your own forearm first to calibrate pressure, then start on your partner's back and shoulders before approaching more sensitive territory.
Ice play
Tracing an ice cube over warm skin, nipples, neck, inner thighs, then chasing the cold with a warm mouth or hands. The temperature swing makes nerve endings fire twice, and the only equipment is the freezer. Smooth-edged cubes work best; let the surface melt slightly first so it glides instead of sticking to skin.
How to start: Keep a glass of ice by the bed, warm the room first, and trade roles after a few minutes so you both learn what the contrast feels like.
Your partner in the harness
The receiving side of strap-on play: your partner buckles into the harness and takes the lead while you are on the receiving end. For many couples this is the deepest role reversal available, and the novelty runs both directions, new sensations for you, a new kind of confidence for them. Slow pacing and abundant lube are the rules.
How to start: Talk through who does what before buying anything. Let the wearer practice the harness fit alone once, then keep the first shared session short and unhurried.
Sex furniture and wedges
Firm foam wedges, ramps, and slings that tilt hips and support weight, unlocking angles and depths that pillows compress too much to hold. A simple wedge under the hips transforms several classic positions and spares backs and knees, which is why these are quietly beloved by long-term couples. Most come with washable covers.
How to start: Start with a single basic wedge from a dedicated brand, slide it under the receiving partner's hips in your usual favorite position, and notice the difference.
E-stim and TENS play
Using a TENS unit or dedicated e-stim toy to send mild electrical pulses through pads on the skin, producing tingling, fluttering, or pulsing sensations you dial in together. Kept to common-sense placements, thighs, buttocks, lower back, and never across the chest, neck, or head, beginner units are gentle. Start at zero and climb one notch at a time.
How to start: Buy a beginner unit from an intimate brand and read its placement guide together. Each try the pads on your own thigh first, controlling your own dial.
His-and-hers toy show
Each partner takes their own favorite toy and you pleasure yourselves side by side, watching each other. It is equal parts show and masterclass: nothing teaches a partner your exact rhythm and pressure like a live demonstration. Many couples find eye contact the most intimate variable, opt in or out of it freely.
How to start: Pick a night with low lights and no agenda, each bring your own charged toy, and agree that watching is allowed, encouraged, and nothing to be shy about.
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