The Kink List for Couples

What is a kink list?

A kink list (also called a yes/no/maybe list or a sexual bucket list) is a private checklist couples use to discover what each partner is curious about, without the pressure of saying it out loud. You each answer independently, and only your mutual interests are revealed. Anything you mark "Hard pass" stays invisible to your partner, so it's safe to be honest.

How does the couples match work?

Both partners rate the same chapters in their own account. LovePlay compares your answers and shows only the items where you both expressed interest. It is the easy way to start a conversation about intimacy and try something new together.

Is the kink list free?

Yes, it's free to take. Rate chapters from romance and the senses to flirtation, new places, roleplay and power play, get your desire profile, and share it with your partner. Premium unlocks every chapter, the more explicit categories, give and receive preferences, and real partner matching.

Is it private?

Completely. Your answers stay on your device until you create an account, and anything you rule out stays invisible to your partner. Only the desires you both say yes to are ever revealed, the same idea behind a classic couples compatibility test or BDSM checklist.

Learn more

New to all this? These guides walk you through it: what a yes/no/maybe list is, how to make a kink list, spicy questions for couples, the couples intimacy quiz, and sexy date night ideas.